The past year and a half I have been going through a huge amount of changes and I decided to take a look back on where I was when I was 20, about 5 and a half years ago. Here are a few pieces of advice I would give to myself back then:
Never give up on your love for Johnnys. At this time, you basically live, eat and breath Johnnys, and that’s okay. 5 years from now, you will be even closer and even more knowledgable about Johnnys than you ever imagined. You will have toured part of Japan to see your favorite groups in concert, Massu will have noticed you, you will have written your MBA thesis on the business of Johnnys and you will have met your best friend, all because of Johnnys. Never give up on it, because it will help you find your dream, and live in Japan.
Don’t be scared to try fashion from Japan. I know that you just came back from your winter term trip to Japan and you were fascinated with Japanese fashion magazines. I also know that you were scared about what other people around you would think if you started to dress that way and experiment with fashion more. You will be scared until you move to Japan in 2012, and finally start dressing the way that you have always wanted to. 3 years later, after experimenting with your personal style a lot, you will be the go to person within your friends for all things fashion.
Don’t cling to friends that don’t want to spend time with you. One of the hardest lessons that you will learn in these 5 years is that you can’t make people stay friends with you, no matter how hard you try. Also, don’t pour your heart and energy into friends who don’t care as much as you do for them. You will only be heart broken. Friendships are not black and white, you will have different types of friends that fulfill different purposes in life, and certain friends will leave your life once that purpose has been fulfilled.
Don’t harp on not having a boyfriend yet. Yes, this will always be a worry of yours and you won’t actually get your first serious boyfriend until you are almost 25 (who you are still together with now, nearing on one year). This is nothing to worry about. Just learn to love yourself and be with yourself right now, because that’s all that matters.
Accept that the world is unfair. This is a VERY new concept that I have learned, even though I am almost 26. Sometimes you just have to accept that the world is unfair in order to stay sane. If you keep on harping on how unfair the world is, instead of doing something to change your own situation, then nothing will happen or change. Just make the best out of what you have and work hard.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Read the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson. This will change your perspective on many things. Remember to breath and that life isn’t an Emergency. Stay Calm and Japan on!